Anyone seen TAFKAM?

Anyone seen TAFKAM?

Once again, TAFKAM has proven himself to be just as childish and immature as I suspected.

Your little personal jabs at me don't really bother me that much, but I am not going to sit back and let you think that you can just continue to bully me. I'm not sure what you are trying to accomplish. Do you want me to stop visiting these boards? Do you want me to post exclusively on "that other site?" Do you just want to make me look foolish in front of all your friends? Or is there a specific point/argument you are still trying to get across to me?

My door is always open if you feel the need to get something off your chest. However, if you want to keep making fun of me behind my back, I might just have to load up both of my barrels as well.

I already apologized in my last post, but in the true spirit of the Brothers I will do it again. I'm sorry if you felt attacked or threatened by me.

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Hoo boy. I'm already bored by this thread. Have at it, kids.

ETA: On further reflection, there is another alternative...maybe let this thread die a silent death and help those who desperately seek attention realize this SITE ISN'T ABOUT THEM?

Jesus, girl. Calm it down. You act like you're so above engaging in petty conflicts on the interwebs and then YOU START A THREAD in order to instigate one? Come on. You're better than that. Probably.

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@heids - I did not instigate this. TAFKAM changed his name in order to mock me. I'm not going to stand for that. How would you feel if someone changed their name just to make fun of you or your profession?

Another thing that's always open is TAFKAM's inbox on the private message system, a place where such a person-specific posts should go in the future.

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HA! Oh how I was hoping you would ask that, because this is a great opportunity for us to discuss the difference between FEELINGS and REACTIONS.

Because something like that actually DID happen on these very boards not too long ago. Someone who apparently didn't like me very much took my profile picture, created a dummy account and posted posing at me, in a manner that was meant to mislead others into thinking it was me. They clearly did it to humiliate me.

How did I FEEL? Pretty crappy, actually. I felt kind of violated and sad.

But the better question is how did I REACT? I talked to the great friends that I have made on this board and stayed away from the boards for a couple of weeks. I emailed some folks at Ramseur records about my concerns about identity theft and lax security on the website. In the meantime, I went to two Avett shows, celebrated my birthday and let it run its course.

In other words, I took the high road. Come join me up here. The view is lovely.

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*Edited

@heids - OMG! I am so sorry. I guess you do know how it feels.

I still don't really know how I am supposed to react. I'm a strong woman (always have been). I do not take this kind of abuse from anyone. I've admitted that I was wrong in earlier posts and reached out to TAFKAM. I've apologized twice now and he continues to attack. I really feel like I am taking the high road.

What did the people at Ramseur say when you emailed them? I don't know if my case is cause enough to bring authorities in. As of now it has just been verbal abuse.

Ignoring the situation is one way to handle it, but I've never been one to shy away from confrontation. It seems like even though you took the high road, you did take some action against the abuse.

I'm thinking MoonCutter is right in that I should have just private messaged him. I didn't realize I could just PM anyone on the board like that. I definitely should have looked into it.

Again, I'm so sorry that happened to you Heids. These boards can be vicious. I'm second-guessing even coming here. I truly had the best of intentions and simply wanted to converse with some like-minded fans of the Brothers.

BTW - Your little trap worked perfectly on me! You must be a great lawyer! Smiling

Nobody's making fun of you behind your back.

We're laughing at you in your face.

You were asked and then warned to leave me alone. You replied with some pathetic qualified and conditional apology. I'm am not impressed.

Either take your medicine or cry me a river. When I see that you're sincere about being part of this community and not here just to tear everybody down or call people out, I MIGHT change my name to something else.

Until that time, IMaMODEL.

You are welcome and ENCOURAGED to quit whining publicly and either email me or come to that "other" board you so eagerly vilify.

ETA: I don't know who you expect to believe you're being attacked. I have not stalked your every post and criticized you. In fact, I haven't done anything but change my ID to a humorous moniker reflecting a silly and ludicrous incident pertaining to this board.

If you don't like people laughing at you, I dunno, quit posting.
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Another good lesson (which I have been working on with my 5 year old) would to be realize and accept the fact that in life, you will never be able to get along with everyone you encounter. Now, when you encounter someone you do not get along with and repeated attempts at working out the issues in a peaceful manner fail, you have a few options. 1 - You can mutually accept that reality and stay out of each other's way. This method usually requires one of the parties to be the bigger of the two and to accept some level of defeat in order to find common ground on which you still may not get along, but at least on which you are not fighting and annoying everyone around you. 2 - If option #1 has been tried and is unsuccessful, or if neither of you has it in you to be the "bigger" of the two, you can separate yourself from that person in an effort to be a happier person yourself - because really, why stick around and subject yourself to being tormented by someone you could easily walk away from? 3 - You could continue to bicker and pick fights and annoy all of the people around you who have nothing to do with your petty disagreement yet are forced to listen to it anyway.

I think my 5 year old is pretty close to getting this lesson down. Just sayin'

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I don't have time for a proper response as I'm headed out the door. But I have one question for TAFKAM - Do you have a mouse in your pocket? LOL!

Um, you do a GREAT disservice to women who actually have been verbally abused by calling what TAFKAM has/is doing "verbal abuse." Don't. It's hugely disrespectful, and I would advise that you cease taking the mantle of victimhood as quickly as possible.

You haven't been abused. You've been teased. You've had words thrown back in your face. You don't like it. Tough. That's life. If you're as strong as you say you are, you should have learned by now that while you have the right to protect yourself from legitimate attacks, you do NOT have the right not to be offended.

Another thing that you might find interesting is that TAFKAM and I haven't always been such great friends. In fact, our interactions started much in the way that yours did. He said something I didn't like, I told him that I didn't like it, and we had a verbal back and forth in a public forum for an afternoon. It got a little ugly, and I said I had had enough, and I QUIT TALKING ABOUT IT. I sent him a PM explaining my point of view, he sent one back thanking me and apologizing for some of his actions, and we have since then become as good of friends as two people who have never met can be. He and I still disagree with each other fairly often, but we are respectful of each other's viewpoints. As Mooncutter suggested, you might try this approach with him. Inviting an audience to witness a conflict is not often the best way resolve it, if that truly is your goal.

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Who gives a f***.
Duke is the national champion of college basketball.

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PGfO, I would not sign in and send this if I wasn't truly repulsed. I know that you seem to mean well; but at this point, the things you are saying are not sounding intelligent. It more than seems that you are trying to pick fights, and this is not the place for that. This is a place to have discussions and share thoughts respectfully. The reason you are being "picked on" and "laughed at" is obvious to everyone except for you, it is stemming directly from your comments.

"When at first I learned to speak
I used all my words to fight
with him and her and you and me
oh it's just a waste of time
it's such a waste of time"

I do not mean this message to come across as hateful or disrespectful in any way to anyone. Just to remind us all of the reason we are here. Those words are so true. . . . it's such a waste of time. Let's use our time wisely. Smiling *hugs*

Ditto everything Julianne said.

Plus, there's a lot of irony in PGfO (a wannabe Scott model) being called out by Julianne.

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This thread should never have been placed in the Avett Discussion section, so I have moved it over here. I considered just deleting the whole thing as it does seem like it is of limited interest and should have been handled with private messages. What is the general consensus about what should and should not be deleted? I know that the powers that be would rather err on the side of less control than over control. -- ...The Sunday Morning Rehab Show... .............. on WQFS 90.9 fm.............. It’s more fun than a week at Betty Ford.

Good eye David, and I agree that it should be moved.

I would tend to vote not to delete threads unless they're just objectively offensive. How is something objectively offensive? I don't know. But in the words of Justice Potter Stewart: "I know it when I see it." He was referring to p0rn, but it bears some weight here.

I would say that if you're going to delete a thread that you inform the person who started it via PM and tell them why. I think that is only fair. Sometimes people may not know what they're doing wrong, and how will they learn if you don't tell them? We're working on this while training our dog not to jump up right now - I find it is applicable to humans as well.

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I'm glad this thread wasn't deleted for Reiggin's post alone.

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ditto^
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A big thank you to Julianne!

ETA: Also thank you to Heids for clearing up the issue of throwing around very SERIOUS terms such as "verbal abuse."

And thanks Reiggin.

Thanks all around! Happy Thanksgiving!

This is very strange. PGfOhi-a, are you real? Or are you just trolling? I'm not trying to be disrepectful, but I am sincerely curious. Either way, it would be really great to just call a truce for the betterment of the board.

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Nobody is right if everybody is wrong

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stirred---funny you say that. I have had my suspicions about her not being real also but then I thought it was my Jersey skepticism acting out again.

Maybe if she had more on her profile would stop me from thinking it is someone on the board just busting TAKFAM's chops for doing the heinous crime of starting another board.

Is there anyway sundayrehab could check this out?
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Yeah, Dave, can you see IPs like we can over at tablive.net?

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As usual I don't have a clue. I was lucky I knew how to ban that
tuxedo salesperson.
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Tuxedos?!? I need a tux for my upcoming runway show that I'm judging.

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Well, thanks to the advice of Heids and a few posters here sending me some uplifting, caring, and much-needed private messages, I am now taking the high road. I hope to contribute to the group in only positive manners from now on. In the meantime, I might need to take a short break (also a tip from Heids).

For those that PM'ed me, thanks so much guys. You know who you are.

Spread the Brothers' music and love!

I pretty much try to skim and ignore these kinda threads, but I must admit to now reading through everything and I will just say these few things...

Get a room! - meaning keep the exchanges of a negative, personal nature in the private message realm.

This is the internet! - If you are gonna put stuff out there in a public forum, best be prepared to take what comes from it! I have only been involved in a handful of message boards and this happens ALL THE TIME! You dish it, you take it!

And yes, take the high road! - I have read where people have said, post things with the notion that TAB's mother might read it...I am not sure that their mom actually would read these,( I bet Jim peeks in, tho') and I would be shocked if S & S & B & J don't take a gander....so that's what I try to keep in mind when I post... WWTABR (What will T A B read)

/there, my 2 cents...in

LuLz

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What do you mean you're taking the high road? Are you saying I'm a low roader? Just because you got some caring and uplifting messages you think you can suddenly decide which road to take? I like the road I'm on just fine and judging by what I can tell of the brothers, they like this road to, so I'm just like them.

So take that "other" road, but as for me I shall not waffle.

Just like the brothers.

That's how I roll.

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.....aaaaannnnnddddddd scene!

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seriously, is it just me, stirred and docmike who thinks this PgfOhia is a total troll?? i think it reeks of troll, dead beaten horse AND falafel! stop feeding it and like all other obnoxious twit trolls, it will go away.

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“You never really understand a person until you consider things from their point of view – until you climb inside their skin and walk around in it.”
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The lesson – seeing things from another’s point of view – may be the most important thing we learn in life. There’s never a single point of view – in anything – and learning to recognize and be sensitive to the views of others is the key.

Whatever you do today – try to see it through the eyes of others, feel it through the senses of others, hear it through the ears of others, understand it in the minds of others, and walk it in the shoes of others.

The real mastery of this comes when you can do all of those things before you think or act or speak or write or walk; that’s when you will truly understand. That’s when you’ll be one with the world around you.

- Zen Master

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"and walk it in the shoes of others"
I'm thinking the Zen Master did his share of bowling.

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Insert giggle Smiling

Speaking of bowling....

The Dude: Ah, f*ck it.
The Big Lebowski: F*ck it! Yes! That's your answer. That's your answer for everything! Tattoo it on your forehead!

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The Dude: Walter, what is the point? Look, we all know who is at fault here, what the f*ck are you talking about?

Walter Sobchak: Huh? No, what the f*ck are you... I'm not... We're talking about unchecked aggression here, dude.

Donny: What the f*ck is he talking about?

The Dude: My rug.

Walter Sobchak: Forget it, Donny, you're out of your element!

The Dude: Walter, the chinaman who peed on my rug, I can't go give him a bill, so what the f*ck are you talking about?

Walter Sobchak: What the f*ck are you talking about? The chinaman is not the issue here, Dude. I'm talking about drawing a line in the sand, Dude. Across this line, you DO NOT... Also, Dude, chinaman is not the preferred nomenclature. Asian-American, please.

The Dude: Walter, this isn't a guy who built the railroads here. This is a guy...

Walter Sobchak: What the f*ck are you...?

The Dude: Walter, he peed on my rug!

Donny: He peed on the Dude's rug.

Walter Sobchak: Donny you're out of your element! Dude, the Chinaman is not the issue here!

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I found him.

What a hardass.

http://m.gmgrd.co.uk/res/239.$plit/C_71_article_1023895_image_list_image_list_item_0_image.jpg

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I too once dabbled in pacivism. Not in 'Nam of course.

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"Vee vant da money, Luhbowski"

"You don't even have the girl. We know that"

[pause for discussion]

"Vee don't care. Vee still vant da money."

Brilliant.

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This thread could maybe have been solved early with "yeah, well, that's just like, your opinion man"

Though it was still amusing to read

The internets is serious business

Donny was a good bowler, and a good man. He was one of us. He was a man who loved the outdoors... and bowling, and as a surfer he explored the beaches of Southern California, from La Jolla to Leo Carrillo and... up to... Pismo. He died, like so many young men of his generation, he died before his time. In your wisdom, Lord, you took him, as you took so many bright flowering young men at Khe Sanh, at Langdok, at Hill 364. These young men gave their lives. And so would Donny. Donny, who loved bowling. And so, Theodore Donald Karabotsos, in accordance with what we think your dying wishes might well have been, we commit your final mortal remains to the bosom of the Pacific Ocean, which you loved so well. Good night, sweet prince.

"Eight year olds, Dude."

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Anybody up for Lebowski Fest this year? I usually catch the one in Louisville

"Shomer f*cking shabbos."

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"This.is.what.happens..."

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"Three thousand years of beautiful tradition, from Moses to Sandy Koufax... You're GD right I'm living in the f*cking past!"

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The Dude: Uh, and then, uh, the music business, briefly.
Maude Lebowski: Oh?
The Dude: Yeah. Roadie for Metallica
Maude Lebowski: Oh.
The Dude: Speed of Sound Tour
Maude Lebowski: Mm-hmm.
The Dude: Bunch of a$$sholes.

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"You want a toe? I can get you a toe. I can get you a toe by 3 o clock this afternoon, Dude. With the nail polish."

Cop: And was there anything of value in the car?

The Dude: Oh, uh, yeah, uh... a tape deck, some Creedence tapes, and there was a, uh... uh, my briefcase.

Cop: [expectant pause] In the briefcase?

The Dude: Uh, uh, papers, um, just papers, uh, you know, uh, my papers, business papers.

Cop: And what do you do, sir?

The Dude: I'm unemployed.

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"I'm a little nervous 'bout what you'll think when you see me in my swimming trunks."

This thread started out about as annoying as possible, and now it can't get much better.

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"I'm a little nervous 'bout what you'll think when you see me in my swimming trunks."

That rug really tied the room together.

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